Know yourself without booze
What is


It’s Not Me, It’s Booze (INMIB) is a recovery method that supports women to break unhealthy drinking cycles. We use evidence-based practices which allow you to explore who you are, what you want, and discover your power. We see recovery as unique to the individual and we don’t solely focus on alcohol or your relationship with it. Mel finds her clients are often using alcohol to self-medicate because they haven’t recovered from past experiences which is why INMIB sees recovery as a holistic approach.  You don’t have to be strictly AF to start your recovery, but you must be curious. We allow you to explore your journey at your own pace with the options of doing our signature “Love Your AF Life” five-week course, a tailored 1:1 recovery plan with Mel or joining our membership for additional support.

The change process can be hard and repetitive but at least INMIB can make it fun!

how does our membership work?

Mel likes to think of being sober curious as a similar experience to peeling an onion. When we have negative experiences we produce layers on top of layers to protect ourselves. Sometimes we have hidden our true selves behind so many layers we don’t even know those layers exist or who we are beneath them. Being sober curious allows you to peel back these layers and connect with your true self and values. This can be an incredibly hard process, and one that can be isolating which is which is where INMIB Members comes in. We provide the community and tools to support your sober curious journey so you don’t have to feel alone.

Our membership is “the social club without booze but all the fun”. INMIB allows you to be your authentic self in a non-judgemental space. Our crew encourages you to be courageous and vulnerable because we want you to grow and start your healing. We understand that the sober journey is hard so we cheer you on everyday and give you the resources to support your growth. INMIB makes being sober curious fun and builds confidence as you change your relationship with alcohol.

“We don’t heal in isolation, but in community” – S. Kelley Harrell.

Love your AF journey

Five Week Course

Have you ever wondered what your life would be like if you didn’t have to waste your weekend in bed with a hangover?

Have you been promising yourself that you’ll drink less and be “better” next time?

Are you tired of waking up in the morning and flushing with embarrassment as your memories (or lack thereof) of the previous night dawn on you?

Do you feel like you could do more and be more motivated, but alcohol is holding you back?


love your AF journey Five Week Course

Let’s get to work…

If any of this sounds faintly familiar, it’s time to start doing the work so you can break the unhealthy cycles that are restricting you.

Throughout our five week “Love Your AF Life” course you will learn evidence-based theory, self-reflection techniques, and strategies to start changing the way you think of yourself, your relationship with alcohol, and your future.


Highlights include:


  •  33 self-paced modules
  •  Weekly videos
  •  24/7 support in our Members Only Online Community
  • Wellbeing workshops
  • Expert guest speakers
  • Extra recommended readings and podcasts
  • Online journal
  • Weekly zoom group meeting

What clients
are saying

I’ve been thinking about giving up, or at least having a break from, booze for years. One day I came across the INMIB Instagram and reached out to Mel. She told me about the INMIB AF program and I wasn’t really sure if it was for me or what to expect, but thought I’d give it a go. My biggest worry was staying committed while working full-time shift work as I’d often have a tipple to wind down, which is why the program gave me more than I ever thought it could. I learned valuable lessons about myself that not only helped me ditch alcohol, but also improved my mental health and self esteem – I couldn’t be more thankful. The group support was what really allowed me to realise I’m not alone in this. If you’re sober-curious like I was, then I cannot recommend INMIB enough. You may be surprised at how much you take away from it.


I loved the flow of the INMIB journey: discovering my values, getting down to the nitty gritty about why I established an unhealthy relationship with alcohol, learning how I can create new AF neural pathways, and so much more! Now I feel equipped with so many strategies to support my triggers, FOMO, and attending social events AF! INMIB has empowered me to change my narrative.


I walked away from Mel’s program with new daily habits that have been complete game changers. Getting to know my values and the science behind addiction has put a whole new spin on my sobriety that I didn’t have before. I loved connecting with an awesome group of people from all over Australia too! Highly recommend working with Mel, she makes recovery fun.


The INMIB course was informative and thought-provoking, which helped me build momentum in an alcohol-free life. It was also great to be held accountable and have support from the group. Mel was encouraging and easy to work with and I would definitely recommend.


The opportunity to be part of this group was amazing! I’ve learnt a bunch of great strategies I can apply to all areas of my life, not just drinking. It’s been awesome getting to know everyone and I feel pretty confident in saying I’ve made some lasting friendships here.



  • 11 August, 2022
    6:30 PM to 8:30 PM
    In Person

    Sydney you deserve a night of drinking Plus and Minus non alc pinot and learning to paint at our private…

    Mel likes to think of being sober curious as a similar experience to peeling an onion. When we have negative…
  • 7 September, 2022
    6:30 PM to 7:30 PM

    Is this the month you finally join a Book Club!? Do it!! :-) Do you like reading or do you…

    Mel likes to think of being sober curious as a similar experience to peeling an onion. When we have negative…
  • 10 September, 2022
    10:00 AM to 11:00 AM

    Starting your sober journey, sober curious or have been sober for a while, come along and meet people you can…

    Mel likes to think of being sober curious as a similar experience to peeling an onion. When we have negative…


  • 1Freedom - YOU FINALLY GET TO LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT! No restrictions, no limitations, nothing holding you back! You get to choose the way you act and how you spend your time and energy.
  • 2Empowerment - You have control over your life. You are confident and you are strong. You know your goals and how to achieve them. You trust your own decisions.
  • 3Authenticity - You remain true to yourself. Your life aligns with your values and your light is shining. You are reliable, consistent and because you are real so are your relationships.
  • 4Abundance - Your energy will change, what you give out to the world will be an unstoppable force. Things will happen for you, it’s called karma. You get what you give.
  • 5Peace - Drama will be a thing of the past. You’ll be able to accept your experience, emotions and feelings. You’ll have peace because you won’t be addicted to the pain alcohol can give you.